WARNING: VENT AHEAD
One more week until weigh in and start of phase 2. I’m so looking forward to it. This phase has been easy but to be honest has seemed pointless and a huge step back. I’m hoping that the step back will mean bigger results in phase 2 and maybe that was the purpose for phase 1.
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Today wasn’t a good day at all. Hubby really upset me to no end. He broke my heart and i don’t even think he realizes how much he hurt me. I had my dean’s list party today. It was something minor really but it was a huge deal for me. Jason was supposed to go with me but yesterday he made a comment that it wouldn’t be so bad but it was superbowl Sunday. Well, for one superbowl wasn’t on til six and my party was at 2. Plus, he has not watched one single football game all year. We aren’t football fans. I was interested in it this year only because of the Colts. I live in Indiana. Well, then today I got home from work, took a nap, and then he came in to wake me up and asked me if I wanted to sleep longer. I said no because i had to get ready for the party. He made the comment that he was hoping I’d change my mind. I literally told the man how important it was to me. Well, I got upset and told him that if he didn’t want to go and support me then fine. I expected him to say that he’d go if it meant that much to me but no, he didn’t go and then my kid decided to stay home. I was crying so hard. I was bound and determined to go though. Well, it sucked. All they talked about during the presentation was the fact that it makes it easier to have family support and how good it was to see all the families there. I’m sitting there through the whole ceremony which took less then an hour about crying. Afterwards, they had refreshments, I couldn’t get out of there fast enough. I cried all the way home. I went home and went straight to my bedroom and Jason came in and asked me how it went. I told him that all they talked about was family support and it was meaningless for me because I had none. He tried to convince me that he loved me and supported me but I told him that actions speak louder then words. I was hurt. I felt like my family desserted me and didn’t seem to care that I was so upset. They are more then willing to support my diet but not my schooling. My mother in law said had I called her she would have gone but I didn’t because I was afraid that she had plans and would say no and I couldn’t take someone saying no to me again. It was one of those things that would have meant something if I had someone to share it with but I didn’t so it wasn’t worth a hill of beans.
I know my husband loves me but he needs to learn to do things for me even if it’s not what he wants to do. It’s a part of being married.
I’m sorry I vented so much. I had to get it out. I’m really feeling much better now. Thank you for listening.
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Boy, what you said really touched me. It’s because your story is someone else’s story too. The names are different, curcumstances are different, but that main point is the same. Sometimes the people we love the most can be insensitive to us. Usually they are good, but when we really need them, sometimes they bale on us. And, you said your function was minor but a big deal to you. Well, sometimes we need other people in our lives to make our minor things big deals. As wives, we are taught to be supportive of our husbands and lift them up. “You fixed the faucet? Great job honey!” “You found us a good deal on that thingamajig? Way to go sweetheart!” But, when something small or minor happens to the wives, we may not get that grandstand because there mothers never taught them that. And, he probably was sorry for what he did. (He’s probably even sorrier he didn’t go!) I’m sure some other wives may not agree with me, but let him stew in this a little longer. If you let him off to easy, he’ll do it again the next time. Sometimes we gotta teach them stuff or give them refresher courses in kindness.
Well, if it means anything. I am glad you went. You should be proud of yourself. I know what it means to be on the dean’s list and its a huge accomplishment.
Don’t apologize for venting. We all do it!
And I don’t blame you for being upset. I do know how you feel. My husband supports me in everything, but the rest of my family doesn’t, and it hurts. The main thing is to remember that, ultimately, you’re doing it for YOU not for them. You can take comfort in knowing that you have your priorities straight, even if nobody else does.
I’m so sorry about what happened, hopefully you can get through to him about how much it meant to you.